3 Signs You And Your Spouse Need Marriage Counseling

Are you and your spouse struggling in your marriage? Perhaps you aren't communicating well or you're fighting frequently. Or maybe there's been a major issue like a breach of trust with money or infidelity.  

Regardless of what the issue is, a marital issue doesn't have to result in divorce. Many couples overcome serious issues to have happy, long-lasting marriages. One of the best ways to get past your obstacle is to engage in marriage counseling. Talking to an outside therapist can often help couples better understand each other and communicate better. Below are a few signs that marriage therapy could be helpful for your relationship:

You are indifferent about each other.

People often think that constant fighting is the worst thing that can happen in a relationship. However, fighting at least displays a level of investment in the other person and the relationship. Very often, indifference is far more destructive to a relationship than fighting. Indifference happens when you no longer have an interest in the other person. You don't listen to them in conversation. You don't care about their day or what they're going through. You have no desire for sexual activity or intimacy with them. A therapist can help you and your partner identify the source of the indifference and reignite the spark.

You or your spouse is lying about important issues.

Small white lies happen all the time in relationships. A husband may tell his wife that he likes her new haircut. Or a wife tells her husband that his thinning hair isn't noticeable. These kinds of small lies are harmless.

Other lies, though, can be corrosive. That's especially true if the lie involves major issues like money, infidelity, childcare decisions, and much more. If there's been a lie in your marriage that has betrayed your trust or your spouse's trust, it may be time to bring in a third party. A counselor can help each of you get to the root of the lie and figure out a healthy way to move forward and rebuild trust.

You look at each other as the enemy.

It's easy for resentment to seep into a marriage. You spend time with each other nonstop. You share responsibilities for money, home upkeep, childcare, and possibly much more. It can be very easy to see your spouse's faults and begin to resent them for it. Again, a therapist can help you work through those feelings and also recognize and appreciate each other's strengths so you have a healthier relationship.

Marriage can be hard work, but problems don't have to end in divorce. Talk to a counselor today to see if marriage therapy is right for you and your spouse.