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How To Make Your Marriage Even Stronger After Losing A Child

Life is full of surprises, and sometimes the surprises you encounter are complete nightmares. Losing a child is just one example of a horrible event that can happen out of nowhere, and this can be one of the hardest things you may ever go through in life. If you are married, this event can also take a major toll on your marriage. If you want to avoid losing your marriage after losing a child, you may need to seek help from a counselor. Through counseling, you might be able to prevent a divorce from occurring, and this might involve focusing on the following things. Losing A Child Can Strain The Marriage Couples that lose a child will go through a lot of emotional trauma and pain from their loss, and this type of pain can lead to strain on the marriage and possibly even to divorce. When parents lose a child, they are often filled with troubling thoughts, questions, and fears. They are consumed with grief and sadness, and they often have difficulty moving on in life. Because of these things, a couple may grow apart from each other. They may have trouble talking about how they feel, and they may be filled with anger or desperation, and spouses might end up aiming these feelings at each other. While couples do not do this intentionally, it is something that can naturally happen when a major loss or problem in life occurs. It’s important to know that divorces do not occur for most couples that lose a child. In fact, losing a child could actually bring two spouses even closer together. Your Spouse Is Experiencing The Same Pain As You One reason your marriage might be able to survive this huge loss in life is by recognizing that you and your spouse are the only two people that share the extent of this loss equally. While men and women often grieve differently, a mother and father are the only two people who will truly feel the pain caused by losing a child. If you can realize and remember this, you both might be able to cling closer to each other for support and comfort. Branching Out For Support Will Be Beneficial While your spouse may be the only person that knows exactly how you feel and what you are going through, it’s important for you to branch out for help. If […]

Tips For Persuading A Loved One To Seek Help For A Mental Illness

Do you have a close relative that seems to suffer from depression, anxiety, or some type of mental illness? Watching someone suffer from these issues can be depressing and frustrating, especially if the person refuses to get help. If you know someone that really needs help, you may want to start creating a plan to persuade and encourage him or her to seek help from a psychiatrist. As you plan for this, here are a few steps you can take that may help you achieve your goal.   Accept That He or She Cannot Think Clearly It might be extremely clear to you that your loved one is not well and needs professional help, but you cannot assume that this fact comes across clearly to your loved one. In fact, you should accept the fact that your loved one cannot comprehend this concept. Mental illnesses, including depression, often disrupt a person’s ways of thinking. These illnesses cause people to think irrationally, and this is primarily because their brains are not functioning in ways that are normal. Because of this, you cannot expect your loved one to simply agree to get help after you explain to him or her that you have concerns. This is not because your loved one wants to continue living like he or she is living, but it is because your loved one may not realize there is even a problem. This factor makes it challenging to persuade someone to get help, but you should not give up for this reason. Research Mental Illness And The Available Treatment Options As you spend time researching mental illness, you might be able to grasp a better understanding of how it can affect a person’s actions, thoughts, and decisions. You will also learn that there are treatment options for most types of mental illnesses, and one of the best options is psychiatry. A psychiatrist is a doctor that treats people with mental illnesses with two main methods. The first method is through talk therapy. Talking to a person with a mental illness is a great way for the doctor to understand and diagnose the person’s condition. The second method involves medication. If a person is truly mentally ill, the person’s condition might improve significantly if he or she takes the right type and dosage of medication. Through psychiatry, your loved one might be able to live a normal, productive life. […]

4 Reasons Why Children Should Not Be The Glue In Your Marriage

Many couples reach a point in their relationship when they experience significant problems and are considering a separation or divorce. However, their logic is to stay together for the children and possibly avoid the emotional scars associated with divorce. Although children may seem like the glue that binds a marriage together, there are reasons this rationalization can make matters worse. Marriage Doesn’t Change Parenting One spouse may push to keep the marriage together due to their underlying fear their spouse will no longer be an active part in their child’s life if the marriage dissolves. In some cases, this is true—a parent may become estranged once the relationship dissolves. However, no matter whether the marriage remains intact or not, it has no bearing on being a good parent. When the marriage is strained, some parents may remain in the same household and but still distance themselves from the children, which can be more damaging. On the flip side, although the dynamics of being a parent will likely change if the marriage is over, since living arrangements or custody can be a factor, if your spouse is a genuinely caring parent, this will not change how they interact with the kids. Unfair Burden On The Children The idea of staying together for your children places an unfair burden on them. Although your children are a component of your union, their relationship is distinct from your marriage and should be treated as such. It is never the child’s responsibility to hold an adult relationship together, and your child may eventually form feelings of guilt regarding their power over the relationship. If the relationship inevitably ends in separation, they may feel like they caused the divorce. Conversely, they may feel guilty for being the reason two people are miserable together. Make the decision to stay in your marriage because you want to work through problems and possibly find a resolution. But never make your children feel responsible for those decisions. Damaging Effects Of Unhappy Relationships Although you may frequently hear about the devastating effects of divorce on children, you must also consider the opposite situation. There are also plenty of children who grew up in broken homes, although their parents were still married, and they may have wished their parents divorced. It is understandable that you want the best for your children and to protect them from any adverse effects of divorce. However, […]

5 Tips For Staying Sober After Painkiller Treatment

Addiction to prescription painkillers is both widespread and hard to overcome. With nearly 2 million Americans estimated to be addicted to painkillers, you are far from alone in your addiction. You’ve already gone through the psychologically and physically challenging experience of rehab, and you should feel very proud of yourself. Now is the time to focus on how to maintain your newfound sobriety after exiting rehab. Here are five ways to do so: Find Outpatient Chemical Dependency Care Going from the safe, supportive environment of rehab back to the “real world” can feel very harsh and jarring. This is a very vulnerable time where you are prone to relapse. It is therefore very important that you find outpatient aftercare in order to maintain some structure and remain focused on recovery. Your rehab center may offer aftercare services or be able to refer you to the appropriate resources. Find a Good Therapist You most likely already went through a painful withdrawal experience during rehab, after which you no longer felt a strong physical craving for painkillers. Unfortunately, once the physical aspect of your addiction is conquered, you may find that you still feel some symptoms of psychological addiction. For example, you may have triggering events (an argument with your spouse, money worries, or anything else that provokes anxiety) that cause you to miss the euphoric and anxiety-squashing effects of painkillers, even though you are no longer physically addicted. Your best bet is to find a qualified therapist you have a strong rapport with. They will help you discover healthy ways to cope with depression and anxiety, without resorting to painkillers. They will also help you process any underlying trauma or psychological issues that led to your addiction in the first place. Eat a Well-balanced Diet Now that the opiates are out of your system, it is time to fully nourish your body and give it the fuel it needs to thrive. Eating a nutrient-dense, well-balanced diet will give you the energy you need to stay strong in recovery and will help boost your mood as well. There is no need to latch onto an overly restrictive or complicated diet.  Instead, just work on adding plenty of fruits and veggies to your diet, while also reducing the amount of processed or sugary foods you consume. If you’ve never had a healthy diet before and don’t know where to start, it may be […]

4 Advantages Of Fathers Using An Outpatient Detox Center Instead Of Inpatient Options

For some fathers, providing for a family can become a struggle when addiction to pain killers or alcohol is involved. Getting treatment is the first step in recovery and there are a lot of options to complete this process. One of the first decisions to make is choosing from an inpatient or outpatient detox center. At an inpatient center, a person stays there for an extended period of time. At an outpatient center, appointments are scheduled and plan is put into action to help you recover and stay sober. For fathers, there are many benefits to choosing an outpatient center over an inpatient one. Browse through these benefits to see how this type of detox center is ideal for you and your family. Family Time By attending an outpatient center, you can still spend daily time with your family. This can be an important step in the recovery process. Spending time with your children is a great way to heal through issues and be there for important moments. By still being with your family, you can attend important events that you will not regret missing. This includes family birthday parties, children’s events, or special occasions like a graduation. The extra family time can give you motivation to get better and heal yourself for all the right reasons. When attending outpatient appointments, you have the opportunity to attend group meetings and possibly bring your family along. These groups can help you learn how your struggles have impacted them on a daily basis. By listening and learning, you can make these immediate changes instead of waiting for an inpatient program to end before you can show your family how much you care. Employment For many fathers, it’s important to provide a stable income for a family. By attending an outpatient center, you still have the time and ability to work on a daily basis. Many outpatient centers will work around your schedule to ensure that you can maintain the job. By healing and continuing to provide for your family, you can ensure that no more damage is done due to your substance abuse issues. If you lost your job due to drug problems, an outpatient center program is a great way to go through treatment and seek new employment. Some centers may even offer job boards and employment solutions for your situation. Daily Routines An outpatient center can help you set up […]

Curious About Seeking Help: What Goes On During Counseling?

Even those who are die hard about receiving some help about either a mental illness or a rough patch someone is going through in their life might be a reticent about seeking counseling or therapy. For many years, therapy had a social stigma attached to it. Many people tended to think that those who went to therapy were somehow crazy or abnormal. Luckily, such a stigma has somewhat been lifted, but the vestiges of being a little weary of what goes on during a therapy session still remains. Therapy can be a quite normal experience with licensed professionals knowing how to create an environment that is welcoming yet professional, friendly yet discreet. This brief article will serve to let you know what goes on during a therapy session. Learning About Your Background Although all adult counseling sessions differ and all therapists differ in scope and methodology, one of the most common things that occurs is that, during your first visit to a therapist, your therapist will want to learn about your background. If you have a history of mental health issues, he or she may wish to read charts supplied by your psychiatrist, if you so allow them access to such information. This is not to say that all therapists will remain so aloof; many will go beyond the scope of simply examining medical charts in order to learn more about you. Most therapists will get to know you during your first session. First and foremost, they will want to learn what brought you to therapy. Is there a specific reason, or is this time in your life just difficult and you need someone to talk to and add a bit of clarity to the fog of confusion that is resting on your life at the time being? Not only this, but many therapists will want a condensed version of your life story during this session. They want to be able to fit the puzzle pieces together, so to speak, and perhaps impute an impetus upon the problems that are currently plaguing your life. Discuss What You Want Out Of This Relationship Remember that a relationship with a therapist is just that: a relationship. And like all relationships, they are a two way street. You should not go to a therapist without knowing what you want out of your therapy sessions and you should not go to a therapist if […]